Evil X’s
September 11, 2007 · Print This Article
The EVIL X has struck again… proving once more the bastard that he is..excuse my french.
As a part of our interim court orders, that we agreed and the family court of australia signed off on, my X took on the responsibility of paying the minimum payments on our joint credit card debt that we accrued during our marriage. He was supposed to be paying me child support but I forfeited half of my due child support for him to make these minimum payments…especially on the ones that were in my name.
I just found out yesterday that not only has he NOT been making the minimum payments for the past 7 months on these credit cards, but now my credit rating is shot and I have a strike against my name in australia which will make it difficult for me to rent a house, take out a loan, get a credit card, connect a home telephone service, etc etc. Even though as of this Friday, when the house settles, we will be able to pay off all the debts in full, the mark remains next to my name for the next 5 years…and there is NOTHING I can do about it.
It’s like he is just trying to ruin me…I have been racking my brains to think of some appropriate revenge but alas I am too nice to post naked pictures of him on the internet…lol not that i have any!
It is so hard, to keep my head up when he just seems to be going out of his way to ruin me…Well, he may have just blown his chances of me bowing to his demands and moving back to australia with the kids for at least the next 5 years…Why would I move back there now…that things are going to be difficult for me to provide a proper life for my children. What does he want…me and the kids homeless and out on the streets…
As if my life isn’t bad enough, someone who I really looked up to really shattered me the other day telling me my work and various projects on the internet (including
I have been under an enormous amount of pressure lately, as you all know…and I am sorry if emotionally I haven’t been able to keep up with everything but I feel like I am barely keeping my head above water right now…and now I am a bad mother because I am trying to provide an income for me and the kids that will enable me to stay at home with them full time…I don’t get it…I am damned if I do and damned if I don’t. It’s so hard to find a balance.
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Long time reader, long time lurker, but I had to come out and say this to you: I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this emotional turmoil with your ex. In that aspect, I cannot relate BUT I know that it is tough and it is a heavy burden to carry. More importantly, I came out of lurking to tell you that despite the fact that things are not perfect in your life, you do give a lot of hope and inspiration to a lot of us out there. We’re all human, no one is perfect. Not you, not me, not the people who are quick to point out your short-comings, not anyone! So tell those nay-sayers to bug off and keep on doing what you do!
Hey Girlie, I’m so sorry you are having a hard time right now. Men can be real shits sometimes. Here in the states you can write a letter challenging bad marks on your credit report. If you send proof of your court agreements to the credit bureau it may help your case. It can’t hurt. I’m sorry you’ve been put in this situation but this will too shall pass. I promise. Also, only you know if you are a good mother. Don’t let someone else tell you if you’re doing your job. If it’s not true, don’t put a lot of stock it. Hold your head up and move on. Screw ‘em all!!! Sorry, got excited. Seriously, you are a strong, beautiful woman. You’re gonna be fine.
You are Flabulous! Just remember that. I don’t know how credit reports work in over there, but if I were you, I would write a letter to the credit bureau explaining the situation and include the agreement (if you have a signed agreement or a court order)if you can. This won’t erase the bad marks, but it will help if you need car loan or house or even to rent an apartment (at least it would over here in the USA).
As far as letting whoever get you down, you have to decide what you are going to do and why and then you don’t let others get in your way. Being a single mom is DAMN hard. I know because I raised my 24yo daughter all by my self with no help or child support.
So hang in there, do what YOU decide is best for your family and God Bless You for keeping us laughing!
I am the
AfterGirl
By all means contact the credit bureaus immediately. And remember to follow up, have copies of all your documents that you send them, etc. Dammit, that just sucks. And please don’t let people get you down when they say you’re spending too much time on your project and are ignoring your kids. Please. This idea that you must be in your kids’ faces and constantly entertain them all the time has got to stop. (I get it from my husband, too.) Kids need to learn to entertain themselves with toys, books, art supplies and playing. Take care, we’re all cheering for you!
You ex is an A-hole! He’s not only hurting you but he’s hurting his kids. Jerk! You must have documentation to back up that he was supposed to be making the payments … so that ought to get you back on track with your creditors.
I hate to say this but just because official documents require the exes to do certain things doesn’t mean that they will.
My dead beat X was required to cover our daughter on his health plan, pay for 50% out of pocket medical expenses, pay for 50% of extra things like lessons etc, pay child support (which isn’t much) and he did NONE of those things.
He owes me hundreds of thousands in back child support.
My advice to you is that anything in your name from here on out you must take care of. Keep track of everything he was required to do and don’t count on him following through.
I know lots of women (men too) that count on those child support payments and they always fator that into their budget. BIG MISTAKE. Don’t ever count on that money. It’s not always going to come through.
Especially if your X is a dead beat.
You’re doing awesome!!!
Flabuless you are fabulous! I know where you can rent a house in The States with no credit check… run away! Seriously though, I’ve not been a Mom for long (15 months) but there’s one thing I learned fast about being a full time care giver… you have to take care of yourself first. If smoking that cigarette helps you cope, then do it! I do. I’m not proud of the fact, and I know I need to work on that, but one thing at a time for me. The person who said that stuff about YOUR life…. do they have kids? Have they ever had a weight problem? Have they ever had an insane X to deal with? My guess is no. Completely disregard what that person said. CARRY ON! or All Forward! as is my personal saying. Just don’t quit! Don’t give up! Get mad, get angry and use that energy to be productive. Move forward even if you have to stomp a hole through the floor with every step. Your kids will be grateful in the end that their Mom was strong enough to push through the BS and they’ll grow up NOT taking crap from stupid people.
Hope you are okay over there!
I say you on I village and I am proud of what you have done. It is just about taking one step at a time. Get into your groove and perfect that. Set realistic goals and just like you count the points start counting the smokes. keep tally and then try to cut that number in half and when you decide what is your stopping point do it and make it count. Back in the day I used to date a smoker and when we broke up I craved cigarettes not because I missed him but because I got used to that smell. I found myself smoking sometimes when I had allot on my mind to relax. But then when I found that my Grandfather died of lung cancer I immediately snapped out of it. Now I am married with 3 kids; a 9 yr old and 2yr old twins. I believe you when you say it is hard work because it is even if you do have a man in your life…there are just not enough hours in a day. Period!! Don’t sweat what the people say, you do the best that you can do but be sure it is your very best. I was very much over weight before and after I had the twins because of inactivity. Now I have gone from a 16 to a size 6. To me that was unbelievable since the last time I was a 6 was 13 years ago. I was able to shed some pounds from portion control and walking everyday. I have also traded my pepsi for water and only drin pepsi when I go out to dinner which is every other friday. If I have to eat fast food. I just get one sandwich and ask for water. the more water I dring the more full I feel. when you 1st wake up dring a bottle or a cup of water, brush your teeth rinse really good drink another glass of water and a multivitamin like womens one a day weight control. I think it is a green bottle. then when I get to work I drink another glass of water. I walk abck and forth going to the bathroom it is tiring sometimes. then by 9am I go walking for 15 to 20 min then drink 2 more cups of water. 1100am lunch… will be subway eat fresh on wheat or I will fix subs at home to save money and fix them for the entire week. If i go to subway I order a footlong and only eat half sometimes i will eat it the next day or eat it for dinner. as far as dinner and meat is concerned. I bake everything. if I make groundbeef stuff not only do I drain the meat I rinse it with scalding hot water and them of course I have to re season. whatever you do do not cut out carbs from your diet. I have done all of the diets it all goes down the drain when you go out to eat. just eat smaller portions. email me sometimes so I can see how you are doing. I forgot about breakfast I eat total with 2% milk and drink 2 cups of water….any how try this for about a month and let me know how it goes. cereal for breakfast, cold cuts for lunch on wheat bread, anything you wnat for dinner just smaller portions (meat, starch, veggie, bread) no seconds.
Hi all!!
What do you think about Tokio Hotel? >:)
Oh also I forgot something when you mentioned about the credit cards. I am not sure if it works the same way there as here when it comes to taxes. you know what I just though about something… just check your email since everyone can read this, including him if he wanted to…
I am not sure what you mean by Tokio Hotel so I am googling now to see …brb
ok I looked up Tokio Hotel and I see this, I cant listen at work so I will get back with you later on this one, I enjoy all kinds of music but we shall see:
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Tokio Hotel
Background information
Origin Magdeburg, Germany
Genre(s) Pop rock[1][2]
Alternative rock[3][2]
Years active 2001 - present
Label(s) Island (Universal)
Website Official site
Members
Bill Kaulitz
Tom Kaulitz
Georg Listing
Gustav Schäfer
Tokio Hotel is a German rock band who formed under the name “Devilish” in 2001 in Magdeburg, Germany. The quartet has scored four number one singles, two number one albums and sold nearly 3 million CDs and DVDs in their homeland.[4]
From 2001 onwards, they played in talent shows and small concerts. After Bill Kaulitz’s participation in a children’s Star Search in 2003 (which he lost in the quarter-final), he was discovered by music executive Peter Hoffmann. Devilish changed their name to Tokio Hotel (”Tokio”, the German language spelling of the city Tokyo, Japan, which they love, and “Hotel”, due to their constant touring and sleeping in hotels), and Sony BMG took them under contract. Hoffmann hired David Jost and Pat Benzner into the team of creators and authors, and had them give the children instruction on songwriting and instrument playing. However, shortly before publication of the first album, Sony terminated their contract. In 2005, Universal Music Group took Tokio Hotel under contract and developed a marketing plan.
ok I was looking for the Lyrics but I will wait for that at home too it was creating too may pop ups
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